A Boob’s Life

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Published by: Pegasus Books
Release Date: March 2, 2021

  

Overview

Author Leslie Lehr wants to talk about boobs. She’s gone from size AA to DDDD and everything between, from puberty to motherhood, enhancement to cancer, and beyond. And she’s not alone - these are classic life stages for women today.

At turns funny and heartbreaking, A Boob’s Life explores both the joys and hazards inherent to living in a woman’s body. Lehr deftly blends her personal narrative with national history, starting in the 1960s with the women’s liberation movement and moving to the current feminist dialogue and what it means to be a woman. Her insightful and clever writing analyzes how America’s obsession with the female form has affected her own life’s journey and the psyche of all women today.

From her prize-winning fiction to her viral New York Times Modern Love essay, exploring the challenges facing contemporary women has been Lehr’s life-long passion. A Boob’s Life, her first project since breast cancer treatment, continues this mission, taking readers on a wildly informative, deeply personal, and utterly relatable journey. No matter your gender, you’ll never view this sexy and sacred body part the same way again.


 

Praise

"As women we are always asking ourselves, are we enough? Leslie Lehr's witty, wise, and sometimes heartbreaking memoirs, A Boob's Life, uses our relationship with breasts, and the ways others define us through them, to explore what it means to live in a woman's body. Original, thought-provoking, and with an elegant sense of humor, A Boob's Life is a must-read."
Salma Hayek

"When I was a little girl dreaming of having breasts, I had no idea about the non-stop ogling and boob-worship I was in for as a woman in America. Leslie Lehr explains it all in this funny, passionate, upbeat book. You’ll never look at yourself in the mirror the same way again. Wow!"
Leslie Morgan Steiner, New York Times best-selling author of The Naked Truth, Crazy Love, and Mommy War

"Spot on perfect and no wonder this world is such a confusing place for women of today... So authentic and real, I flew through reading the pages... Every woman and man should read this book...probably one of the best books for book clubs ever to read as so very, very discussable. The end of the book still brings me chills - and the story I will never forget."
Kathy L. Murphy, CEO & Founder of The International Pulpwood Queens and Timber Guys Book Reading Nation

 


 

Excerpt

 

The body is not a thing, it's a situation.
Simone de Beauvoir

Some people think that having large breasts makes a woman stupid. Actually it's quite the opposite: a woman having large breasts makes a man stupid.
Rita Rudner

 

 

1

2015

OBSESSION 

 

My nipples are cross-eyed. I see it clearly in the bathroom mirror the moment I step out of the shower. As steam clouds the view, I wave my towel and pray it was an optical illusion. No, they’re definitely pointing in different directions, as if embarrassed to meet my eyes. Or maybe this is payback. The truth is, my breasts have been loathed and loved, suckled and stuffed, radiated and reconstructed. They have doomed one marriage and inspired another. Yet, every step of the way, they’ve had the finest treatment in America. By now, they should be perfect.

“Hon?” my husband, John, calls from the bedroom. “What’s taking so long?”

Since we married a few years ago, both of his parents passed away, and then I got cancer. This is the first home we’ve bought together, a condo with an ocean view we’ll enjoy for a few years as a reward for all we’ve been through. The ninety-nine-step climb is like a stairway to heaven, but I didn’t have to die to get here.

This is our first night to relax and renew our romance. I try. First, I dab perfume behind my ears and unclip my damp chemo curls. Then I take a deep breath and look again. If I raise up my right shoulder and arch my back just so, my breasts are lush and round and almost even. But there’s no ignoring the truth. I pull a cotton nightgown over my head as fast as I can. Then I shove my towel so hard into the plastic hamper that the piece of crap falls over.

My husband tears his eyes from the TV as I stomp into the bedroom. “You OK?”

I snatch my phone from the cardboard moving box by the bed. “I have to call my doctor.”

“Now?” he asks, over the swell of applause for The Late Show. “Are you in pain?”

Yes, I want to say, psychic pain. Then I realize the doctor’s answering service won’t consider that an emergency. When I shake my head, my husband smiles and pats the bed beside him. I surrender the phone and scooch over. He rubs my leg and glances back at the TV, where the host is mid-monologue. I start to relax. Then the host tells a boob joke about J-Lo.

The TV audience roars.

I turn to my husband who, to his credit, is not laughing. “This guy gets millions of dollars and that’s the best he can do? She’s the producer of a successful TV show.”

He shrugs. “Comedians have always made boob jokes.”

“Exactly. It’s not original. Why are they laughing? There’s a neon sign that flashes the word laugh?”

“No, they’re really laughing. I bet half the people in that audience are women, and they’re laughing, too. Boob jokes are funny.”

“But why?” I ask. “Every woman in the world has boobs.”

“That’s why. They’re the first female body part a man sees when a woman walks into a room.”

The laughter dies down. The comedian is talking, but I don’t care. I hate him. “What makes a boob funny?”

“Boobs just sit there, all round and funny looking.”

“Dicks just sit there too, and they’re far more funny looking. Why aren’t there more dick jokes?”

“Dick jokes are insulting.”

“All jokes are insulting. They make fun of something. Isn’t that how humor works? Is it how the word sounds? I mean, no one says ‘breast jokes.’”

“Breasts are beautiful, everyone knows that. When you call them boobs, it’s funny.”

“But ‘boob’ means stupid. How can an organ that turns blood into milk for babies be stupid?”

“Lighten up, hon.” He winces as if I’ve been shouting.

“I just don’t understand why people always laugh at boob jokes. They’re not funny.”

“Why are you being so sensitive?”

I don’t answer, on the grounds that it might incriminate me. I remove his hand from my thigh. He raises his eyebrows. I take a deep breath and try to let it go, but I feel like punching somebody, and he’s the only one here. So much for romance.

John changes the channel. We see a young woman vacuum-wrapped in a cocktail dress wave at a weather map of Southern California. Her chest sticks out so far, she’s in danger of toppling over.

“There’s a boob joke for you. Think she’s really a meteorologist?”

“That’s just for ratings,” he says, which proves my point. Or maybe his.

Now I’m sorry I insulted the woman. The tight dress doesn’t make her slutty or stupid. That was my interpretation. How can I laugh when the joke is on me?

My husband clicks to a sports channel. Men on TV shout about games with balls. I want to make a crack about that, but he’s just being a guy. He can’t possibly understand the frustration of a flat-chested teenager or a nursing mother or a deflated divorcée.

“I don’t want my breasts to be funny.”

He turns, surprised to see me on the verge of tears. “Hon, your breasts are fucking gorgeous.”

“You’re just being nice. Look.” I pull down my shoulder straps.

He smiles at my bare breasts as if this is a reward. Then his gaze rises to my reddened face, and he realizes this is part of the debate, one he can only lose.

I feel bad, so I let him fondle me.

“You aren’t naked very often,” he says. “I don’t notice the details. It’s more fun to see them together with your pretty face.”

Now, he’s pandering, so I pull up my straps. He removes his glasses and rubs his weary eyes.

“When did you get so obsessed?”

“Seriously, hon,” I say, looking down. “Do you think I should get them fixed?”

He turns off the TV. “Up to you. I like all breasts. They’re like pizza. There’s no such thing as bad pizza.”

“For men, sure. For women, all pizza is bad.” Especially if we want to stay attractive to men like you, I think, cursing myself for being caught up in this competition.

My husband slips under the covers. I kiss him goodnight and grab my phone. Then I tiptoe out of the bedroom to let him sleep. Though that’s a big fat lie. The truth is I don’t want him to hear me call my doctor to complain.

I close the door of the room that will be my office and squeeze between moving boxes to my desk. If only it wasn’t so late. I scan my contacts to find someone else to call, maybe a woman who could talk me down. I see my mom’s number and wonder what she would say. Or my sister. Each of us has two daughters. That’s seven sets of breasts between us. Like most women, we rarely talk about them. They wouldn’t want to start now, on the phone in the middle of the night. I call my doctor and leave a message.